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Long distance

While graduation marks the end of an epic, it also marks the beginning of a lot of first times, one of the foremost are long distance relationships. The word relationships here not being restricted to the strictly romantic ones. Work, studies, time pull you apart. Sometimes geographical distances are the barrier, sometimes temporal. but what stays is the word distance. and then some day some snaps remind you of some people, you add new people on your phone list, and old ones are phased out. As you age, you have more n more people to keep track off, and trust me this can be an overwhelming task. so here are a few tippers, to save dying LDRs , to preserve the ones, or to build up on em... there are a certain things that need to be understood at the beginning. First "things have changed". That you have moved places is a "fact" neither parties can run away from, so embrace it. Secondly you have moved apart cos of a reason (cause) etc. and that often has more to do with

Surprises surprise you

Surprises are a bad idea. Though “surprise” has a positive connotation, I’ve figured as u grow up, surprises are never fail-proof. There are lot of troubles with it… Keeping the surprise hidden being the first n foremost. A surprise has a lot of assumptions associated with it, which violates the principle of “never taking people for granted”. A surprise has a lot of expectations associated, more the number of people involved more the expectations. We expect people to react in a certain way, we expect the people to consider the surprise in a certain way. So a harmless surprise may turn into a complete disaster. Motive is the prime controversial factor. The simpler the motive, the more controversial things get. As I d said before its very difficult for people to accept simple things. We assume certain settings, that never happen, what is often ignored is the mood of the person(s) the surprise is meant for. That’s one thing u can never predict. Surprises are a gamble. The long